Dear family and friends,
After a great deal of personal and family reflection (and prayer) Julia and I have discerned that the best thing for Daniel and our family is to relocate to the San Diego area. This is not something we do lightly or without a measure of sadness. We made a covenant (a promise) to our children when each were born; that we would do all that we can to support and encourage them - no matter what happens. This relocation is part of living out the covenant we have made with our children.
We have made the decision for a number of reasons:
(1) Daniel will need support and encouragement for many months to come. He is likely to be at the Naval Medical Center San Diego until the Summer of 2012. We go primarily to be there for him. In the near term he will need help driving him places and some assistance with daily living. Longer term we will be available for occasional assistance and other encouragement as needed.
(2) We have also found that we have reached the end of our ability to function as a family and be separated. This "family-via-long-distance thing" has grown old and hard to keep doing. I have been the sole caregiver for five months without a break. We want to share the honour of helping out our wounded warrior.
(3) We have also reached a point in our financial situation that demands a change. I have been without pay since January (my employer, The Bishop and Episcopal Diocese of Colorado, has graciously allowed me unpaid leave until August 1st and has covered our medical insurance during that time). Due to an injury and subsequent surgery to Julia's Achilles tendon she has lost her job at Jefferson County School District working in a school cafeteria. Up until now we have been able to hold off bankruptcy and due to the generosity of some of our creditors (especially US Bank and Chase/JP Morgan) we should continue to avoid filing. But, we are now at a place where we cannot continue paying our mortgage. It would not feel right to us to keep living in the place and not paying our obligations. We will be losing our home. Therefore, we have put our house up for sale and hope that we get enough to cover the remaining mortgage or we will attempt a "short sale." Please pray for a buyer! Quickly!
A few other notes:
- I have communicated briefly with Bishop O'Neill that I will not be returning to my ministry with the people of the Diocese of Colorado and Cathedral Ridge. After almost 12 years, this was a hard thing to do! I will miss being part of the exciting future of Cathedral Ridge.
- Daniel and I will be in Colorado until the Danielathlon (June 4th) and then over the next couple weeks we will get our belongings to San Diego and into storage. We hope to be all there by Tristan's graduation from marine boot camp (June 16-17).
- We will be having a BIG garage sale on June 10th and 11th.
- Due to the gracious financial support of so many we have enough funds to cover the move via U-Haul, rent, and living expenses until the end of the summer. We want to give a special thank you to The Rev. Brooks Keith and the Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration, Vail, who have pulled together people and resources to assist Daniel and our family. We are also very thankful for the support of our immediate and distant family members. In the meantime, Julia and I will both begin looking for work that helps us cover our expenses and also make sure we are available as needed for Daniel.
- We have secured a one-bedroom apartment for Julia and I in the same complex as Daniel's new apartment. Aaron will come with us for the summer and try and find work. He will live with Daniel during that time. Aaron has been accepted, and hopes, to attend the University of Colorado, Boulder, in the Fall.
We really wish we could have told everyone personally. Unfortunately, this is all moving fast (our house will be up on the market tomorrow) and we need to get things rolling. We will truly miss living here in Colorado and the dear friends who we have been privileged to get to know over the past 12 years. We do not know what the future holds. We are just travelling the path that seems best to us and allows us to be faithful to what we believe is right for us. We rest in God's hands. We ask for your prayers.